Have you experienced some kind of emotional pain?
If you’re a human, the answer will be yes.
At some point in our lives we will experience heartache.
As much as we might run from it, try our very best to avoid it, the truth is that the human heart is fragile and even the thicker skinned among us will experience some kind of pain in their lives.
Maybe a harsh word someone said once that we can’t forget, or an action which broke our trust.
People hurt and disappoint one another because we aren’t perfect. It’s almost impossible to go through life and offend no one or be offended ourselves.
There’s a pressure in our society to just move on from hurt, to push it down and pretend it isn’t there. To be strong, to show no vulnerability.
But I want to encourage you to do the exact opposite.
This post is for those of us who have decided to let our guard down and begin to heal.
When pain comes, I believe how we choose to deal with it decides how healthy our future relationships and friendships are.
I’ve been told on several occasions that I’m overly sensitive because I have no shame in crying about the big, crushing things… and TV adverts occasionally too (anyone else with me on this one?)
But I will continue to choose to feel, and I hope you’ll join me.
Because our pain was never meant to be hidden and dealt with in our own strength, Jesus tells us that we can cast our anxieties on Him (1 Peter 5:7) and that we should pray without ceasing (1 Thes 5:17).
Burying emotions does not put you in control of them, in fact if they aren’t dealt with in a healthy way, they’re more likely to manifest in ways you can’t control.
I’m no psychologist but I do know emotional pain and the last few months I have been in a process of allowing God to mend a part of my heart which was broken and destroy some lies which were spoken over me. I finally feel like I’m in a place where I can encourage you in your healing too.
Maybe you’re held back by the hurt of things said or done to you in the past. Maybe you’ve tried everything to forgive and move on with your life but if you’re honest you aren’t quite there yet. Your heart still feels heavy.
You aren’t alone, friend.
What did Jesus say about emotional pain?
In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)
Jesus never promised us that we would live pain-free lives BUT He did promise that we can take heart knowing that He’s overcome our battles, our anxieties, our fear.
So here’s my advice:
Cry it out. Feel it. Give it to God.
This blog post is an extension of an Instagram post. It got quite a lot of engagement and it was so heartwarming connecting with people who could relate to my story.
The post was inspired by this beautiful quote from Samantha King Holmes, she has loads of great content, go be inspired by her!
If this post struck something in you, a desire to finally begin healing from past pain, then please let me know how I can support/ pray for you either in the comments below or in the following ways…
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