‘I could have done better’
‘I should have dealt with that differently’
‘I shouldn’t have said that’
I’ve heard words like this from many friends, I’ve said them myself just as often. Many of us have a tendency to hold onto things, constantly beating ourselves up for mistakes we’ve made.
I’m not saying we should never acknowledge when we muck up, of course admitting our own faults is a good thing. But when guilt isn’t dealt with in a healthy way, it can begin to control, constrain and cripple us.
Because it leads us to start believing that we don’t deserve forgiveness, joy or success.
If the guilt of something that you did in the past is preventing you from stepping into the future God has for you, it’s time to let Him do a work in your heart. I know that’s scary. It’s uncomfortable. It’s vulnerable. But I promise, it’s worth it.
What does that word mean to you?
For millions of people it’s more than just a word, it’s a reality in which they can live knowing they are FREE of sin, guilt and shame.
Not because they are perfect, but because Jesus who is perfect, sacrificed himself.
I love the saying ‘there’s nothing you can do to make God love you more or less‘. We can’t earn His forgiveness, all we have to do is accept it.
Maybe you know about grace, you understand and have experienced God’s forgiveness before but the old feelings of guilt have crept in once more, leaving you feeling unworthy of love from others, or even yourself. It’s time to remind yourself of why Jesus died, it was to give us an abundant life of freedom, a life defined by His love, not our mistakes.
Shannon Guerin shares some beautiful thoughts on grace in this blog post- go check it out.
‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness’ 2 Corinthians 12:9
How often do we sabotage our relationship with God because we don’t feel good enough to spend time with Him, or sabotage our relationships with others because we don’t think we deserve to be happy?
Every situation is different, and guilt can be a difficult and complicated feeling to overcome. I hope you don’t think I’m suggesting it’s easy to let go of shame and regret, I know first hand that’s not the case.
BUT I also know a God whose love is so much stronger than any guilt, regret or self-condemnation, and if you let Him, He will redeem, mend and strengthen your heart.
Make 2018 the year that you fully embrace His forgiveness and start living like a free person.
Do you need prayer?
Let me know how I can pray/ encourage you this year.